The latest book I read on my kindle is called “Raising my Rainbow” by Lori Duron.
This is a lovely book, an expansion of Lori’s blog, also called “Raising my Rainbow”, which chronicles her challenges and adventures in raising her youngest son, C.J., who is gender- nonconforming. He is a boy who likes “girl stuff”. Lori’s blog is great, and her book didn’t disappoint either. Both of them are filled with compassion and love and heart ache, and they can really change the way you look at the world. I’ve never been a fan of pushing children into traditional gender roles.
I think it’s perfectly fine for ANY child, regardless of gender, to like any combination of sports, dolls, nature, construction toys, crafts… basically, I think children should be able to like whatever toys, activities, and colors they want. Why shouldn’t they? I currently work with a 6 year old boy who is definitely a boy. He’s active in sports and enjoys playing with cars and legos. But he has a tender, creative side, too. He likes to play with his stuffed animals and do art and his favorite colors are all of them, even pink and purple. *gasp* And even in kindergarten, he got teased by kids because he said he likes the color pink. Really.
I think every parent and caregiver out there should read Lori’s book or blog, or both. It’ll help you look at the world with a little less judgement and a little more compassion for differences. And hopefully, you’ll start getting angry at the “boy” aisles and “girl” aisles of the toy store that send a message to kids about what they can and can’t like. Toys are for everyone. Colors are for everyone. Every kid should be able to enjoy whatever activity they want without shame. It’s really not that difficult, is it?